Madrid

Hola a todos! It’s been over a month now in Madrid so now that everyone is getting settled into the lifestyle it seems like the honeymoon period is ending for some, and more and more people are finding themselves overwhelmed with work, homesickness, or feeling down in general. Personally, being a senior looking into graduate school, this fall semester for me is all about applying to programs and setting myself up for the next chapter of my life. Whether it’s grad school, internships, family matters, or anything else, it can be hard to deal with “real life” while abroad. Because so many of my friends are experiencing hard times in dealing with the stress of it all, I thought it would be a good topic for this week.

When studying abroad it’s very likely you’ll experience a strong honeymoon period when you first arrive and are exploring everything your city and country have to offer. After this period, some people experience hard times in adjusting to life abroad when combined with responsibilities back home. Hopefully you’ll ease out of the honeymoon period and continue just enjoying your time in your location but if you don’t, that’s totally ok and very common! There are a couple of things we can do to help ourselves have a better time and manage our responsibilities both in our study abroad programs and back at home. 

If your stress is induced by applications—internships, work, graduate school, etc.—then time management is EVERYTHING. It’s really easy to get carried away in the day-to-day fun stuff, but if we want to stay sane we have to make time for work too. Personally I think it’s best if you designate a specific day and/or time to take care of the work from home that you might forget otherwise. Once you set aside time to work, respect your time!! A lot of times people schedule time to work and then just don’t work...trust me, I’ve been there. That is so self-destructive though because not only do you not have your work done, you also wasted time and will probably feel bad about yourself for doing that. Even if it’s not the most productive work session, getting a little bit of work done is better than none, and will help you a lot in the long run. 

If your stress is family related, then that is a little more complicated. There are so many possible scenarios in which family can add stress to your life I can’t even begin to address each one. The general advice I’d give however, is to communicate how you’re feeling. If you feel comfortable communicating directly with your family, awesome! If not, there are many counseling resources out there, some even sponsored by IES Abroad, that can help a lot in just listening or also providing guidance in how to address your specific situation. 

Wherever your stress is coming from, remember to look at the bigger picture! You were given an amazing opportunity to experience a different culture and meet so many new amazing people and try new things. It’s normal to get stressed sometimes, just don’t let it ruin your time because this is time we won’t be getting back. Perspective is truly one of the underrated concepts in dealing with stress. Keep an open mind and don’t get caught up in the little nuisances of life, because you won’t even remember them in a few months. What you will remember is the amazing time you had exploring a new culture and the many extraordinary experiences that came with that. Sending good vibes to anyone who is struggling. It’s gonna be ok, you got this, and practice some perspective!

A few days into my study abroad in Madrid, we have our first IES Abroad field trip to Segovia. Waking up early to head to the meeting point, my friends and I gather in the lobby of our residence hall at 8am. Stepping outside, I’m immediately disoriented. The streets are quiet and the sky is dark—the sun just barely beginning to rise. I check the time on my phone to reassure myself and marvel at the dimness of the sky. 

Soon afterwards, I learned the reason why: Spain is technically in the wrong time zone. During World War II, Spain’s facist dictator Francisco Franco moved the clocks forward to align with Nazi Germany as a symbol of solidarity. Even decades later, and despite some controversy, they have never been changed back. Despite being geographically aligned with Britain, Spanish clocks are on the same time as countries as far east as Poland.

While in most of the world, the sun usually rises before 7 am, the sunrise in Spain occurs well after 8 am. The sun rising and setting an hour later definitely seems to contribute to the late-to-bed, late-to-rise culture here in Spain. In New York City, the city springs to life bright and early in the morning. In Madrid, I’ve noticed a stillness that lingers much later into the morning. Of course, Madrileños more than make up for this by staying up late into the early hours (or even late hours) of the morning. 

Having a later start to the day is quite an adjustment for anyone who considers themselves more of an early-bird. It can be difficult to get a coffee before 9am, and few places open for lunch a moment before noon. While visiting Granada, my friends and I roamed the streets at 11am, desperately looking for food before leaving for our bus back to Madrid. Nearly every single place we passed was closed. Finally we found a kebab vendor willing to open a few minutes early for us. 

Mornings aren’t the only times that remind me how far I am from home. The famous Spanish siesta is a very real part of daily life, although it’s not exactly what most foreigners think. While most working-age people don’t actually go home and nap in the afternoon, small shops and stores do close everyday for a few hours between 2-5pm. Restaurants stay open until the end of the lunch rush (lunch is mainly eaten between 2-3pm) and close until dinner (in Spain this is 9pm at the earliest). This break in the work day is more accurately described as a long lunch break that can be used to eat, run errands, etc. Reopening around 5pm, shops stay open much later than in the U.S, with the official workday ending around 8-9pm. 

For an American, it still feels quite unusual to walk around and see shops closed in the middle of a weekday afternoon. The first week of school, I arrived on campus early and wanted to grab a coffee and some school supplies before my 5pm class. To my dismay, I quickly realized that all the shops downtown were closed for the mid-day break. Luckily, I grabbed a pre-packaged coffee from a grocery store and found a school supply shop that reopened at 4:30pm. I remember waiting on a bench outside for them to open so that I could quickly grab a notebook before dashing to class.

Upon first receiving my class schedule, I recall being surprised to see that many of my classes are in the late afternoon and evening, between 5-9pm. In the U.S., it’s rare to have classes so late in the day, and especially during 6-7pm - traditionally “dinner time”. Here in Spain, I usually finish my last class around 9pm, and head home for dinner with friends around 10 pm. 

Although it takes some getting used to, the schedule in Spain is more than just tradition or routine. It’s truly a reflection of the values and lifestyle of the people that live here. Emphasis is placed on a “working to live” and not “living to work” mentality. The relaxed pace of daily life is evidence of the value placed on relaxing, and spending time with friends and family. The difference is quite stark compared to a country like the U.S., driven by capitalism and a work-first lifestyle. Spaniards make time for the parts of life that bring the most joy: going out, staying up, eating, dancing, celebrating. Perhaps it’s why the people here are some of the happiest in the world.